I have planned and been part of a few bridal showers and the best ones for me have been the best planned ones. Normally the bridal shower is planned by the bridesmaids and maid of honour. Here are a few things that I have learned and observed.
1.The first thing you need to do is to speak to the bride and find out who she would like to invite, simply because you don’t want to invite people to the bridal shower that are not invited to the wedding. It’s a faux pas of note, everybody will be talking about the wedding and those people will feel left out.
2.You need to find out what she wants, not everybody wants a stripper and I am one of them, no thanks! Maybe your friend just wants a pamper session, or a wild night out with her girls or a formal dinner event or a garden lunch. Try as hard as you can to get this part right.
3.The invite needs to include gift ideas or wish list and underwear is normally a staple gift at most bridal showers. You need to somehow find out what your friend’s bra and panty size are so that everyone buys her the correct size. The hassle of attempting to return underwear at a store is something she should not have to go through.
4.Have a fun theme, we girls love any excuse to dress up, so please give us one.
5.There has to be some sort of entertainment and/or games. There are so many ideas out there, do your research, link it to the theme, make it fun!
The cheapest way to plan a bridal shower is to use the bride’s friends’ strengths. For example if one is a keen events planner, let her do the organising of the event and decor, if one is an amateur photographer like me, let them take photo’s and in every group of friends, there’s always the loud one, let them lead the games and get everyone involved.
The main reasons why bridal showers don’t go as planned is because there’s never enough time to plan. People always leave the planning to the last-minute and then all of the elements don’t come together the way that they would like them to, so start planning as soon as possible.
Another thing to remember is that the bridal shower is about the bride, not your own personal fantasies that you want to fulfil, so fall back bridesmaid and wait your turn!
Happy Planning 🙂