new day, new you..

I love asking people what their dreams are, their dream jobs, holidays, cars, do they want to get married, have kids etc. and I always get the most interesting responses which actually say a lot about the person. When it comes to jobs, most black people have settled, they have no desire to pursue their ultimate dream jobs, as long as they are being paid well they are more than happy to stay at a company even if they didn’t like it. They will complain but they won’t leave, which I always find sad but I realise that not everyone is courageous to go after what they want.  

What irks me though is how cagey some people are about sharing and talking about our dreams, some people seem to think that once people know what their dreams are and they don’t achieve them, then they will be seen as a failure. You can never fail anyone, you can only fail yourself. Another thing is people think that you will steal their dreams, if a person is not passionate about something, they will most likely not succeed at it because they won’t be able to face the challenges that will come with it.  What I have discovered in sharing my dreams with people is the insight that they have that I probably had not thought about and this always helps you build on what you already had in mind.

The people you need to be careful of though are the dream killers, the people that tell you it will be impossible and they always have a story or theory to back up their thinking, do not listen to what they have to say, stick to your guns, own your dream and pursue it.

zara in SA, finally!

If you have not made your way to the new Zara store in Sandton City then you should plan to go there soon. I have been to Europe twice and both times I came back with items of clothing from Zara and H&M as these two stores were my favourites so I was happy to discover that Zara was finally coming to SA. The Sandton City store is quite big although in the few times that I have been there, I still have not been able to shop because it is always just so full. Rumour has it that the store sold R2 million rand’s worth of clothing in their first weekend and I am inclined to believe this because people were standing at the tills with large amounts of clothing on them, I thought they were waiting for the fitting rooms.

The range of clothing in the Sandton City store is a fashion-loving girls dream, my head couldn’t stop turning as I was internally screaming at the sight of all those beautiful items. The shoes are to die for, their massive clutches already have shelf space in my cupboard waiting for them, it is just love, love, love all around. They also have a kiddies section and a men’s section so it can be retail therapy for the whole family. I found some pictures on their Facebook page of their look book for South Africa and also borrowed some launch pics from lucky pony. Enjoy!

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a job well done

A job well done indeed to my hair stylist Thembi for successfully executing my middle parting hairstyle. I arrived at the salon with my pictures ready to show Thembi exactly what I wanted and as I sat down there was a Cosmopolitan magazine with Kim Kardashian on the cover and I just told Thembi, I want that hairstyle. The results were exactly what I wanted which is very rare and I am happy with mu new hair, I have also received numerous compliments which makes me very happy!

my ngqibamasondo dress

My dress has been a topic of discussion between me and my friends at work since June 2011 when I started envisioning what I wanted it to look like. I really wanted to stand out as the bride and not look like anyone else at my event so shweshwe was immediately dismissed from any of my ideas and then the inspiration of leopard print came about and it took a while for everyone to warm up to it, people are afraid of change but I was dead set on it. I started gathering designs and Jeany & Ayanda were instrumental in sharing their archives of traditional designs and this where I also discovered Bongiwe Walaza. I attended a fashion show she had done back in 2007 but obviously at the time I had no interest in traditional attire so I didn’t pay a lot of attention and this time around I immediately fell in love with her work.

My parents have always said that I am very demanding, when I want something, I will not back down until I get it and I wanted Bongiwe Walaza to make me my leopard print dress for my ngqibamasondo full stop. Finding Bongiwe Walaza was quite a mission because she has no online presence, she is not on Facebook, twitter, she doesn’t have a website and when I googled her, her contact details were nowhere to be found. I was heartbroken at the thought of having to find another designer because I didn’t trust that they would be able to pull it off. All my friends at this point knew that I was looking for Bongiwe and luckily Siphe’s cousin was also getting married and she had found her studio in Johannesburg CBD on Pritchard Street. She gave me their contact details and I called them to make an appointment for the coming Saturday. I was there bright and early only to find that their outlet was closed, I stood outside their shop window with such disappointment, I even called the landline number that I had and it rang and rang. I went home so disappointed and called them on Monday morning and they were adamant that they were opened on Saturday much to my dismay. Anyways I told them that I would come again the following Saturday and luckily they were opened and the lady directed me to their studio’s across the road.

I shared my ideas with them and I could see that they were taken aback because they had never done leopard print before and I was surprised because designers are usually so forward thinking. They had so many of their dresses on display so it was easy to sell my design idea and I even volunteered to buy the fabric myself  (a decision I regretted later). I didn’t know where to go and buy fabric but luckily I had watched an episode of Top Shayela featuring David Tlale and he had gone shopping for fabric at the Oriental Plaza so I decided to go and look there. I walked around for an hour at the plaza and saw some the most hideous leopard print designs and I finally found “the one” just before I gave up (my life should be documented as a reality tv show) and I went and dropped it off at their studio’s. A week later I paid the deposit and waited to be called for consultation and nothing… I kept smsing and calling throughout October and was told it was under construction because they had struggled to find fabric that would match my leopard print one for other parts of the dress. So I waited and they called me in for my first fitting on the 5th of November, 3 weeks before my function, 2 weeks for them though coz I told them it was on the 19th of November instead of the 26th of November.

I hated the dress, they had totally missed the plot, the complimentary fabric was linen and made the dress very dull. I went home thinking maybe it will warm up on me and I realised that no, I just hated it. So I called the designer and told her I didn’t like the fabric and they have to change it, she said I would have to pay extra to which I refused because she had never consulted me on the fabric she had chosen. I also told her that the dress they made does nt match Bongiwe Walaza’s expertise and reputation in the fashion industry, it was a far cry from her admirable work. She buckled after my mini, reverse psychology, flattering speech and agreed to redo my dress for free. Now after my tantrums I could not go back to their studio for my next fitting on my own, so I took Ayanda with me as my wing woman, briefed her on what I wanted and we managed to overpower any of their opinions and drove home my ideas.

After a few more fittings, I finally went to pick up my dress last Friday and I am very happy with the final result despite all the drama and issues I faced, they came through for me in the end and did exactly what I wanted. I am not a confrontational person by nature but in the last 2 years I have learnt that keeping quiet doesn’t do you any favours, you need to tell people how you feel (with tact of course) in order to get what you deserve and in this instance I definitely got what I deserved.

PS – I will share pictures of my dress after my function this Saturday. I will share with you some of Bongiwe’s amazing work.

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